1. Take Care Of Your Body
No matter what you do in your life, you will do it in your body. You cannot replace it, get a new one, or trade it in. This is your body and your will live in it.
If you take care of it now, it will take care of you when you are 60, 70 or 80 years old.
The way to take care of your body is simple. Eat less & exercise more.
Spend 30 – 60 Minutes Each Day Exercising.
This does not mean that you join a gym and start pumping weights. It means that you work every muscle in your body.
Spend conscious time to move the muscles in your arms, back and legs. Take the time to join a gym and workout and use your muscles.
That’s the first thing to take care of the body. Learn this habit first.
Spend 30 – 60 minutes each day exercising.
Eat Food That Is Fresh & Healthy
The next step to take care of your body is to eat well. Treat your body like a home. This is the home where you live.
If you bring good things to this home the home will become nicer and you’ll enjoy living in it. If you bring rotten stuff into this home the home will decay and you’ll hate living there.
So eat good stuff. Eat as much fresh fruits & vegetables as you can everyday. Include a fruit and vegetables in your diet. This will give you the energy that you need.
Play A Sport That You Like Everyday
This is something that will help you relax your mind. That can get you moving physically and get you out of your head and present in the moment.
Something that you do physically, like Tennis or Basketball. The benefit of these sports (or other sports) is that you get out of your head and get in the moment.
The rush of the moment will help your mind relax for a minute and focus on the right now instead of being stuck on analyzing the past or estimating the future.
Additionally the competition will rejuvenate you. Competition in life is how we grow. The more competition we have the sharper, faster, better we become.
Taking up a sport will give you the immediate rush of competition, the instant feedback of success or failure and you will grow.
Avoid Junk Food
Junk food as the name suggests is junk. It’s useless, worthless for the body.
If you feed your body with junk food, you will become lethargic, you will lose energy and over a period of time you will gain weight and lose health.
Eat food that is free of preservatives, sugar, corn, syrup and overly loaded with salt and carbs.
2. Take Care of Your Mind
Your mind is the one thing that controls your thoughts everyday and the thoughts that you think create the reality that you see around you.
So take care of your mind.
But how do you take care of your mind?
The mind, like anything else, has the characteristics of a muscle. You use it or lose it. And as long as you are using it, it will remain fit and healthy. The minute you stop using it, it will decay and rust.
So you keep this muscle active by doing the following.
Read Every Day
There is no difference between the person who does not read and the one who cannot read. Spend 30 minutes each morning and night reading.
Read motivational books. Books about philosophy, economics, politics, literature. Read fiction. Read self-help books. Read about parenting, read about health. Read about science and technology.
But read a book not a blog.
A book has a very permanent nature. It is written with a lot of thought and research. It is the gist of an author’s life experiences. So read a book everyday.
This will keep your mind stimulated and open to ideas. You will get a number of ideas for each author that you can implement in your life. You will also get opinions from across the globe.
Ideas that would not have reached you if you only spoke to the people you met everday. So read a book. Spend 30 minutes morning and night reading a book.
Write Every Day
The only way to bring your thoughts to reality is to write them down. If you don’t write them down they will be lost to the electric impulses inside your brain.
So write your thoughts down, write ideas that come to you, write your philosophy about life.
Write every day. This will help you clear your thought and formulate complete ideas.
If you have a problem. Write it down. You will be able to come up with a solution better, once you’ve written down the problem.
If you have a crush on someone. Write it down. Write down the things that you like about that person, how it makes you feel, what you would do for them.
All these things when written down will help clarify your thoughts about love and life, about right and wrong.
Writing will help identify truths about your thoughts and define how you think. As you progress in your writing, read about writing better. Then write better.
The better you write, the better you will think.
Develop Your Mind In Other Ways
The more neural connections your mind has the better it is.
You can create new neural connections in your mind by doing new things. The more ‘new’ things you try the more your brain will become developed.
Even if you suck at something – the experience of doing it, learning the rule, trying it out will develop your mind.
Listen to and watch things that will develop you mind. Instead of watching TV, watch TED Talks.
Instead of listening to ‘distressing’ music, listen to sweet, kind music. Listen to Mozart, listen to Beethoven.
Plan to learn a new skill every year. Pick up playing an instrument one year. Spend time learning this instrument like this will be something that you will play all your life.
The next year learn to play a new sport. Something that you’ve never tried before. This will both help your muscles improve and improve your mind.
Avoid Junk In Your Mind
Just like your body needs good food to run, your mind needs good fuel to run.
If you feed your mind with junk ‘input’ like mindless television, excessive drama, or constant news coverage whether TV or newspapers, your mind will become lethargic and fatigued.
You will lose the will to do things, since your mind will associate doing things with depressing sad news.
So avoid all news, whether TV or Newspapermen’s. This will give you space in your head to do things that will help build up your mind.
Take a look at the world news for today. Pick up the newspaper and read the editorials in your newspaper. Then go online and read the newspapers of the country that those editorials were about.
The opinions in those editorials will be completely different.
So while it’s great to be exposed to different points of view, you won’t get them in the news. The news will only report the ‘bad’ news, using shock, anxiety and fear.
A better way to get exposure of other people cultures, mental stimulation, and discover what’s going outside your own home is to travel, or meet other people.
You wont miss what’s happening in the news – people will tell you anyway.
Avoid all of the news, political, celebrity, current affairs. Nothing in the news will impact your life on a daily basis. If there is something that impacts you – you will hear it from your friends and family before you see it on the news.
Excessive news will only stress a 24 year old and make them feel like they can’t do anything, or become indifferent to the sufferings of others. A better idea is to discover issues afflicting the community where you live.
If you think a TV show is good – write down what you like about the show, then go out and experience that for yourself. Go meet people do some stuff in the real world.
This will give you the habit of becoming an action taker, getting in the game, instead of sitting on the sidelines watching others.
If you like House of Cards – go volunteer with a political campaign to learn what really happens there, instead of watching someone else version of real life.
If you like Mad Men, intern for an advertising agency in your town. Learn in the real world – not sitting on your couch. Sure your friends will have a lot of opinions about what ‘cool’ stuff you’re missing out, but while they are warming the couches, you will actually be having more fun than they are.
You’ll be living – not watching life from a couch.
So avoid junk food for your mind and give it the resources to build itself.
3. Take Care Of Your Relationships
How do you get a friend, by being a friend.
You are born with a very few people in your life. Your parents. Your siblings. Your grandparents, if they are still alive. Your cousins, if you are close to them.
Every other relationship in your life you have to go out and create. You make friends along the way. Some of them are good, some of them are not so good.
These friends that you make in your journey through life will become your support system. the people you meet everyday, from the grocer, to the kid working at Best Buy.
Sure, at 24 you’re probably thinking, ‘who gives a f*&K about these people…’ but down the line it is these people, these relationships that will matter most to you in your life.
The way to take care of your relationships is as follows
Remember Birthdays & Anniversaries
Even if your friends tell you they don’t celebrate birthdays. Even if your family become sullen when you call them for anniversaries. Remember them.
Even though people say they don’t care, everyone cares about their own special days. When you remember their birthday & anniversaries, they will remember your kindness.
But it doesn’t end there. Remember the special moments in their lives. If they had a kid, remember the date and call them, or write them a card on that occasion.
Yes, even in the day of email, and text. A phonecall or a card have a HUGE impact than a Facebook message or text. Over the years your kindness for others in the form of remembering their special days will snowball and you will become a powerhouse.
It is good to know that some one cares about you – both for them and for you, when you are in trouble, or they are.
Remember when they had hard times in their lives. If they were close to their grandparents and they recently passed away. Remember them on that day. Help your friends get over these moments.
When you need them, when your loved ones leave you, your friends will be there to catch you before you fall.
Forgive Them Before They Ask For Forgiveness
In the long scheme of life small things don’t matter. It doesn’t matter if your friend forgot to tell you first about their new job. Or they didn’t tell you about the girl they were proposing to.
Be a gentleman and forgive them in your heart even before they ask for forgiveness. Then let the incident go. They will realize you are a big hearted person and treat you like that.
But when you do this – don’t resent them after. Really forget the incident and forgive them.
This is more for you, than for them. If you keep holding onto every single hurt that any one has done for you then your baggage will become so heavy you won’t be able to go through the door.
You’ll be stuck inside your own head and no one will want to be around you. No one will want to trip on your baggage.
But if you do forgive them and forget the incidents you will be free. Your carefree nature will be reflective in everything that you do and everyone will want to be around you.
Avoid Emotional Vampires
No matter how good you are to people, occasionally there will be some who are vampires. They suck all the time and energy out of you.
Sometimes you will encounter them at your workplace. Some of them will be your childhood friends, or even a member of your family.
No matter what you do, you can’t change them, you can’t help them improve, you cannot guide them.
So the best thing to do with people like this is to avoid them. Though it might hurt you in the beginning, but the best thing for you and them is to avoid them.
You can be kind and make an excuse for not meeting them, but that will only last so long. So take the bigger step and let them know that they are an emotional strain on you – and you’d much rather hang out with more positive people.
People who support your goals, your dreams, your aspiration. People who share your ambitions and values. These are the people who will really help you grow.
The vampires will get hurt – but there is no better way to deal with them. The sooner you take care of them the better.
Really dig deep and find out the people who bother you in your life like that and then stop meeting them and hanging out with them.
CAUTION: If it turns out that everyone in your life seems to be a vampire you either need to change them all, or look inside yourself and change yourself.
4. Take Care Of Your Finances
No matter how you grew up, in abundance or poverty, it is your duty to take care of your own finances.
Even if you parents have taken care of them for you, even if you have a trust fund, even if you have an empty bank account. You are responsible for it. It is your responsibility to take care of your finances.
If you take care of your finances starting today they will take care of you when you most need them. When you are old, or sick, or sending your kids to school, or helping a parent through sickness. Your finances will help you.
But how do you take care of your finances
Get Positive Cashflow
To begin taking care of your finances you need to have more income than you spend. You need to have more money coming in to your bank account than you are spending.
As long as you have a positive cashflow you can get other things in your life a lot easier. If you don’t have positive cashflow in your life spend the next year or two getting positive cashflow.
Spend the next 15 minutes figuring out how much money you spend, include rent for the house you live in (or your contribution if you’re living with parents), utilities, groceries, car, internet, other monthly expenses, insurance, and monthly spending on shopping & entertainment.
Once you have your expenses take them out of your income. If you have no income – then you have a negative cashflow. Do whatever you can, teach other people, pick up a 2nd job, mow lawns. Whatever you have to do to get this to positive cash flow.
What do you do after you have positive cashflows?
Pay Yourself First
Every cent you earn will be spent by other people for you. The government will want its cut in the form of taxes. The bank will ask for the mortgage payment, insurance, car payments… and so on. Until you don’t have anything left in your account.
So before this happens, pay yourself first.
Get into a retirement scheme where they take 5 – 10% from your salary and put it into a gratuity and provident fund. Then when you get your salary, take another 5 – 10% and put them into another account.
This account is your retirement account – also known as F*&K You money. This is the money that will give you the balls to say F*&K you to anyone you want to.
But a word of warning… You can’t just get a small amount and then stop. This is a lifetime practice. You have to keep adding to this account. Until it becomes big enough that you can invest this into assets that make money for you.
This is money that you only spend on assets that make money. Like a house you put up for rent, or government bonds, or dividend funds, or buying a profitable business etc.
Financial Sinkholes To Avoid
If anything sounds too good to be true – it probably is.
A few things to avoid when you’re taking care of your finances.
The Stock Market – Most people will tell you to invest in it – don’t invest.
Investing in the stock market as a habit is not a very productive habit.
When you do well you’ll be on top of the world, when you don’t do too well, you’ll become anxious, stressed, even suicidal.
It is the job of people on Wall Street to make money investing, yet they sometimes fail. They are professionals, very good at their jobs. 99 out of 100, professionals will beat a hobbyist.
In wall street you are always playing against a professional. In a sport you will play most days with people on your own caliber. So you’ll win some, you’ll lose some. On wall street you’ll lose a ton.
Credit Cards – Yes, even the lovely credit cards. These are probably the worst things invented since the dawn of time. Credit cards don’t increase your spending power – they just make it seem that your spending power has increased. You still have to pay for what you bought, plus interest.
A better alternative is to save for what you want – then when you have the cash then go buy the thing that you wanted to buy.
This has 3 benefits
1) The thing will in all likelihood be cheaper by the time you’ve saved for it
2) There will be a newer shinier model that you can now buy based on the money you saved.
3) You will realize that you didn’t want it in the first place anyway and were buying it on an impulse.
5. Take Care Of Your Communication
The biggest problems in the world arise because of mis-communication. People mis-understand each other.
Spouses fight because they don’t understand what was being said.
Employees get fired because of a communication error.
Friends fight because of something that was mis-understood.
Communication errors cause major problems in relationships between friends, employees, board members and even countries.
So take care of your communication. Become a communication master. Become some one who can communicate clearly and effectively. Not just in your speaking, but in your writing, in your thoughts.
But how do you improve your communication?
Communicate At The 6th Grade Level
Yes, at the 6th grade level. This is one of the most important thing you can do for your communication. If you can explain things to a 10 year old you can explain them to anyone.
You might think that most ‘educated’ people will get turned off by this. But the truth is even most educated people think at the 6th grade level. When they are reading research papers, or grading Ph.D thesis will they get into the ‘educated’ mind and think this is stupid.
Just by communicating at this level, your communication will be understood every time. Your kids will understand you, your parents will listen to you, your employers will ‘get’ you.
In fact by communicating at this level every one around you will think you are wise that you are able to explain complex ideas in the simplest of manner.
Learn The Vocabulary Of Whatever You Are Doing
By learning the vocabulary of what you are doing you will learn faster. You will be understood quicker. Your responses will be on point.
Every profession, sport, online forum, clique, had a different vocabulary. The faster you learn this vocabulary and use it in your conversations the quicker you will rise.
If you play tennis, learn every thing that the pros are saying. Learn their meaning and then when you talk to your friends at tennis using the vocabulary will enhance your game.
The same applies to your profession. The sooner you learn the vocabulary of the profession the faster you will progress. But this isn’t a technique, use it to enhance your overall vocabulary.
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